I know in the realm of dating both men and women can make big mistakes. I'm not going to pretend for a second that I'm perfect in this department (if I was, I'd totally be writing a column called "Sex in the Windy City" and I'd have people refer to me as Marrie) but I do believe that you should never, ever, ever, ever call the women or man you've been newly, but consistently, dating by a different name.
In loo of my recent break off , I did some research on why names are so important. Here goes...
1. Names are a part of every culture and they are of enormous importance both to the people who receive names (me) and to the societies that have given them (my parents).
2. Names have been known to be determined according to very definite and specific rules (My dad had family members with the first name Sarah and much to my mother's liking it's a biblical name).
3. In the Catholic baptismal ceremony the priest ask of the parents "What name do you give your child?" (He wouldn't ask if it wasn't truly important).
4. It is a law that parents must register a child's birth and record the child's name (happened on March 21, 1980 at approximately 4:07pm).
5. There is a link between name and identity in everyday speech, particularly in the words we use in making introductions and in identifying ourselves. ("I'm Sarah with an H" is what I have to tell people every time I introduce myself).
6. Sense of personal identity and uniqueness that a name gives us is at the heart of why names are important to us as individuals and to our society as a whole. (Best statement yet!)
So women and men, make the effort, show respect and don't call the person you are dating Stephanie. If it happens Stephanie may be their real name, for goodness sakes, do not call them Sarah.
I got my information from http://www.behindthename.com/articles/3.php.
